Often, whatever your instincts are, do the opposite. — I have plenty of experience being the only Black friend that a white person has. In theory, two human beings sharing some common interests or values, such as a love of literature or altruism should be enough for a friendship to thrive. However, all too often, that isn’t the case…

We need to unpack this. I’ve received some interesting responses to my last piece. Unfortunately, I don’t mean that in a good way. I knew a piece with a title like, “Why I Won’t Date A Bus Driver” might be considered clickbait by some people and figured I’d get pushback…

Lowering my standards for companionship in the past got me nowhere. Now I recognize my worth. Would I date a bus driver? This question has become a flaming hot topic. The debate that Iyanla Vanzant and Eboni K. Williams sparked over well-to-do women dating blue-collar men hit a nerve. While…

Financial experts claim budgeting is empowering. For many people, they’re anything but. I get palpitations merely thinking about finances. Like many Americans, I’m in debt. The debt I have now is credit card debt, but other people have student loan debt, mortgage debt, medical debt, or auto loan debt instead…

Or how perfectionism isn’t always a good thing Growing up, I absorbed the narrative that if I wasn’t perfect, then I wasn’t worthy as a human being. I felt I couldn’t be successful, or worthy of love if I wasn’t perfect. Throughout my life, I learned how wrong that mindset…

Or what my life as a single, middle-aged asexual Black woman is like I have only been on one date in the past eight years. And the one date I did go on turned out to be a disaster as the man I was with confessed that he supported the…

While women succeed, men are flailing — Just recently, I came across this video where the content creator provided a detailed account of Match Day 2023 at the Stanford University Medical School where all but one of the students they accepted into their surgical residency program were women. …

Ditching labels is well-intentioned, but it isn’t as easy as people think Labels are the bane of my existence. The Ways In Which Labels Cause Harm I am Black, a woman, asexual, anxious, depressed, as well as neurodivergent, specifically on the autistic spectrum. …

Even at a conference that had a Black theme, White people dominate the conversation A few months ago, a friend invited me to go to a conference with her that had Afrofuturism as the theme. For those that don’t know what that means, it’s a subgenre in speculative fiction that…