I clapped 50 times for your writing, not for your experiences. I have dated white men in the past and experienced microaggressions as you do. Waiters and salespeople would always address them and ignore me for instance. I also have white friends and experience the same. One incident that happened a year ago illustrates how differently they are able to navigate the world. I had gone with a friend to a barrier island in our state and we decided to go to a forest. We decided to walk to it. During our walk, we came upon a gated community. The white friend wanted to walk through the community as it would have been a shorter route to the forest. I adamantly refused. Because I knew that the gated community would consist of mostly white folx and I knew they'd be threatened by the sight of me and could potentially call the police. Because my crime would have been setting foot in their precious community. I didn't want to die that day nor face the potential humiliation of having to defend my humanity in that manner. The friend didn't fully understand my refusal initially and thought we should go through anyway but when she stopped and saw the fear on my face, she backed off. We took the long way. I'm not sure she understood the immense stress I deal with as a Black woman until that moment. I stopped dating white men and made a conscious decision not to befriend any more white people because it's exhausting for me to be around them.